Arya Stark is not what you think of when you imagine nobility. Instead of wanting to wear pretty dresses she would much rather wear pants. Instead of thinking about boys and getting married she wants to learn how to fight. She is stuck in Guyland. Arya watches her brothers be brave and noble, they command respect from everyone they see and people admire them. That does not seem fair to Arya, she wants to feel important and take care of herself. She does not want to get married, she wants to rule Winterfell. This double standard for women is explained in depth in Michael Kimmels book Guyland, he writes "Every guy would come on to me, but no one would take me seriously as a soldier. What i could never be was just me- a good soldier and a women"(3). Throughout the show Aryas character develops into this incredibly powerful and independent women, but as soon as anyone finds out who she is, they treat her as a damsel in distress and put her right back into Guyland.
Gender differences in Speech
There might not be a bigger gender difference in the world then how a number of the characters speak to each other. FJ Johnson in his book Friendships among women: Closeness in Dialogue, he states "often women and men will engage in the same activities, men's talk will focus on the activity itself, while women's dialogue will be much more broad and ranging"(4). This holds true in Westeros. The Lannister men will often use vulgar language to talk about their most recent female companion, saying "it was so great" or "she was the hottest women i've ever been with" while the women will talk about the Lannisters as noble people who they can always count on. Specifically, Tyrion Lannister's dialogue towards women is quite gruesome. He will use profanities such as "fuck" or call women "cunts" just to prove a point. While the women will just talk about his recent battles and not think poorly of him. Even though the men and women are often referring to the same event, they are hardly ever saying the same things.
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